Family Recovery Mum

Find Your Path

6 questions. 2 minutes. Find exactly where you are — and what you need most right now.

Question 1 of 6

How would you describe where your family is right now?

We're in active crisis right now A relapse, overdose scare, discovery, or late-night call has just happened. I'm in the thick of it.

Crisis has passed but we're still unstable The immediate emergency is over but I'm still walking on eggshells every day.

We're in early recovery — finding our feet My loved one is working on their recovery. We're learning to communicate and navigate this new phase.

Recovery is underway — we're rebuilding We're past the early chaos. I'm focused on long-term recovery, rebuilding relationships, and my own wellbeing.

Question 2 of 6

What is your biggest challenge right now?

I don't know what to do next I'm overwhelmed and just need immediate, practical guidance for the next few hours and days.

Communication is falling apart Every conversation ends in conflict or silence. I don't know how to say the right things anymore.

Setting and holding boundaries I know I need them but I'm afraid of pushing my loved one away or triggering a relapse.

Long-term planning and my own wellbeing I'm past survival mode but I need tools for the long game — and to actually look after myself.

Question 3 of 6

How long have you been navigating addiction in your family?

Just discovered it — days or weeks This is all very new. I'm still in shock.

A few months to a year I have some understanding but I'm still learning how to navigate this.

One to five years I've been through cycles of crisis and stability. I know the patterns but still struggle.

More than five years This has been a long journey. Recovery, relapse, rebuilding — I've seen most of it.

Question 4 of 6

Are grandchildren or other dependants involved?

No — it's just me and my adult child / loved one No grandchildren or other dependants are directly affected.

Yes — grandchildren are involved but safe Grandchildren exist in this situation but their safety is currently secure.

Yes — I'm concerned about grandchildren's safety I have grandchildren who may be at risk and I need specialist guidance on protecting them.

Yes — I'm the primary carer for my grandchildren I've taken on caregiving responsibility for my grandchildren because of my adult child's addiction.

Question 5 of 6

What best describes your current emotional state?

I'm in panic — I can't think straight I'm overwhelmed, anxious, and don't know where to start. I need the simplest possible guidance.

Exhausted and running on empty The crisis has passed but I'm depleted. I need support but need it to be manageable.

Starting to find my feet again I'm functioning but still fragile. I'm looking for tools to build on what I've already survived.

In a place of relative stability I've done a lot of work. I'm looking for deeper tools and long-term strategies.

Question 6 of 6

What kind of support are you looking for?

Something I can use right now — immediate tools I need help today, not a long programme. Give me what I can act on in the next hour.

A structured roadmap to follow over weeks I want a clear, step-by-step guide for the journey ahead — something to work through over time.

Deeper tools for complex ongoing challenges I've covered the basics. I'm looking for specialist resources for specific situations I'm navigating.

I want to understand everything — start to finish I'm in the early stages and want a comprehensive overview of the whole recovery journey for families.

You Are: Surviving

You're in active crisis — and you need immediate support.

You don't need a long programme right now. You need a plan for the next 48 hours, practical tools you can use immediately, and to know you are not alone.

The phone calls at 2am. The walking on eggshells. The exhaustion of loving someone whose addiction is tearing your family apart. Right now, your only job is to get through today — and that's enough.

Where to start:

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First 48 Hours Crisis Kit — Free Your immediate action plan — 60-second reset, triage guide, hour-by-hour plan. Instant access.

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Recovery Mum AI Chat — Available 24/7 Peer support right now, when you can't sleep and can't think. Available on every page of this site.

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Family Crisis Planning Template — Free Fill it in now, while you can think. Keep it somewhere you can find it at 2am.

Get the Free First 48 Hours Crisis Kit → Download the Crisis Kit

You Are: Learning

You're out of immediate crisis — now it's time to learn the tools.

The worst has passed, but you're still figuring out what recovery actually looks like for your family. You need structure, practical tools, and a roadmap for the weeks ahead.

You've survived the immediate emergency. Now comes the work of understanding what happened, what comes next, and how to support your loved one without losing yourself in the process.

Where to start:

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30-Day Family Survival Guide — $17 A structured, day-by-day guide for families in the early stages.

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First 48 Hours Crisis Kit — Free Even if your crisis has passed — the tools inside are still useful for what's next.

Get the 30-Day Family Survival Guide — $17 Get the Free Crisis Kit First

You Are: Building

You're ready to go deeper — communication, boundaries, and rebuilding trust.

You've survived the immediate crisis. Now you're working on sustainable recovery — learning to communicate, hold boundaries, and support your loved one without losing yourself.

This is the long middle — and it's often the hardest part. The crisis is over, but the work has barely started. You need tools for the real conversations, the hard boundaries, and the day-by-day rebuilding of trust.

Where to start:

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Putting the Pieces Back Together — 3-Volume Series The complete roadmap. From crisis through to long-term thriving. $65 for all three.

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Communication & Boundary Toolkit — $24 Practical scripts, boundary strategies, and frameworks for the conversations that feel impossible.

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Family Meeting Worksheet — Free A structured template for family meetings during recovery.

Get the Communication & Boundary Toolkit — $24 Explore the Full Handbook Series

You Are: Thriving

You've done the hard work. Now you're growing.

Your boundaries are clearer, your communication is improving, and you're rebuilding trust — with your loved one and with yourself. You're not just surviving anymore.

This stage is about the long game — specialist tools, complex situations, and building something genuinely lasting. You need deeper resources and support for the challenges that don't have easy answers.

Where to start:

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Specialist Recovery Guides — Tier 2 Trust rebuilding, advanced thought work, special situations — resources for the complex challenges.

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Progress Tracking Sheet — Free Track where you've been and where you're going. Identify patterns. Celebrate the wins.

Explore the Specialist Resource Library Browse All Resources

You Are: Protecting

You're navigating the impossible choice — grandchildren and your adult child.

When loving your adult child and protecting your grandchildren feel like opposite actions, you need specialist guidance — not generic recovery advice.

Your situation is unique and complex. You're not just a recovery family — you're also a grandmother carer, possibly navigating legal considerations, and holding an enormous amount. The Grandmothers Toolkit was built specifically for you.

Where to start:

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Grandmothers Dilemma Toolkit — $24 The impossible choice — a comprehensive framework for protecting grandchildren while loving your adult child.

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Grandchildren Safety Assessment — $22 Document. Assess. Act. A comprehensive tool for grandparents concerned about their grandchildren's safety.

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Grandparent Rights & Responsibilities — $22 Know your legal position before you need to act on it.

Get the Grandmothers Dilemma Toolkit — $24 View Full Grandmothers Collection

This assessment provides peer support guidance based on lived experience. It is not medical or clinical advice.
In an emergency, call 111 (NZ) or your local emergency services. Free helpline: 1737 (NZ, 24/7).